You know when you have it in your head that somewhere else will be better?
If you removed yourself from your current situation, whether it is job, location, significant other (or none thereof) to some other place, or other person or other job, that things will just be better, the stars will be aligned, the universe will come together and you’ll just….
I’ve been at this place in my head in my life so many times that by now it’s all a bit muddled. What I’ve learned is, I think rarely do all things come together simultaneously.
Sure, you might have a great job opportunity but have to live in a shitty place and be lonely or you might meet the love of your life but he or she lives a great distance from you or you might live in one of the most amazing places but you have a shitty job because that’s all there is there.
It’s at this point I’m often at and I often think about. At one time, I made sacrifices to be with the person that made me happy. Another time. I changed my whole life to be in an area that made me happy. Recently, I changed jobs and am a heck of a lot happier. I’m still missing the totality of happiness though. At least I think I am. Only once in my life did I think I had it all but unfortunately, he didn’t think the same, and so my world came crashing.
We live in an age where social media presents our friends, family, and our world with so much positivity that it’s an overwhelming burden to bear to have all our ducks aligned. Is anyone really that perfect or that lucky? I don’t think so. I think there is something they’re not telling us.
Let’s break it down.
Love somebody. Love your work and love where you live. It sounds simple, doesn’t it yet it’s so hard to obtain and/or so hard to keep. This is why we settle in one area or another or why we constantly roam because we’re seeking it all.
I’m not saying it’s impossible. I’m just saying we would all be a whole lot happier if we concentrated on one thing that was really important to us and lived in the happiness of that. No pressure. If the other things come along, great. I’m told often they do.
Another thing, DON’T SETTLE. Don’t take some mundane job just to earn a buck or be with someone that doesn’t make your heart skip a beat when you set eyes on them just so you’re not alone or live in some armpit because it’s easier than getting up and moving to somewhere amazing. That’s a copout and you must not be on Facebook or maybe you have an alias on Facebook. I’m kidding but seriously, that’s a copout. You have to have at least have one thing that really makes you smile and really makes you want to get out of bed in the morning.
Do one thing that makes you happy and be.
That’s what I try to tell myself anyway.
Let me know what makes you happy and what you wish you had that you think would make you even happier and more complete. I’d love to hear from you.